Men and Emotions

-         showing affection through action

-         integrity and loyalty

-         persistence in solving problems

-         ability to stay calm in danger.

However, there are some other male traits that are worth addressing:

-         overcoming emotional numbness which exhibits itself as a difficulty infeeling, and identifying and expressing one's own emotions.

-         inability to feel and respond to the emotions of others.

-         reliance on the emotional responses of anger, aggressive behaviour and violence.

-         distancing from one's partner.

-         exaggerated investment in work.

-         substituting unconnected lust for sexual intimacy.

Christian counselling offers an alternative for the traditional male stereotype. For example, forgiveness brings healing that is not possible with the traditional malemessage of "Never say you are sorry". Christian principles can significantly help men reach their emotional potential. In Matthew 11:29, Jesus describes himself when he says, "for I am gentle and humble". When men imitate Jesus' humble ability to listen and his gentle caring approach to relationships, they can break out of the strong silent type and develop a full range of emotional capabilities that will not only help their marriages and relationships, but provide greater physical health as well. If you are numb to feelings and lack emotional empathy, Christian counselling can help you build your emotional language and connect with your feelings. You will be healthier physically, emotionally and spiritually. So let's go men, don't let anything hold you back from the freedom God intended for you.

Alfred Davis